when you part ways with your lover...

Maybe one day you will.

 

To be honest I doubt it. I enjoy a small number of people in my life and I'm content with it that way. Keeping people around just for the sake of having them around just sounds like needless work. I've never been one to do that, especially with ex-girlfriends. I move on very easily.

 

I can't imagine myself just cutting people out because it's needless work to have them as a friend. But, each to their own.

 

i'm with lunar completely. i've known a thousand people in my life, and i have more important things to do than spend 22 hours a day trying to keep in touch with all of them just so i don't feel bad about moving on with my life.

 

Yea, I just feel that you can tell when a relationship is done (intimate or friendship), and when it's done, it's done. There's no reason to try and salvage it and try to turn it into something else for the sake of holding on to that person. I have enough things to do in my life, keeping scraps of relationships isn't one of them. I'd rather start over new with someone else and let go of the old one.

 

i havnt had great luck in the clean break department...first...deeply rock a girls world and they usually want more....and then...i have good taste in people apparently because 2 of my long time girlfriends became BEST friends with 2 of my sisters so i had to endure them at many family functions...haha...one was one of the ones that always gave in to my advances....always....:mickey:

....my new strategy has been to tell all women that I am not boyfriend material but i am willing to take one for the team and still sleep with them

 

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You are a trouper. :2thumbsup:

 

Just friends after a break-up never works, even in the cases that it does.

 

I stay away for good unless they ask for my company as a friend.

 

It's easier to not have to see them anymore. At least for a bit until the sting wears off. I haven't parted ways with a "lover" in over 5 years, though. But I recently found out my last ex is a TOTAL and complete tool and I'm actually a little ashamed that I ever dated him in the first place. I've had 6 boyfriends in my life and I've only stayed really really good friends with one. But we just were better suited for a friendship and nothing more. I have 4 of the other 5 as friends on Facebook, but a comment every now and then is about as deep as our friendships go these days. I'm perfectly okay with that. I actually go to great lengths to try to avoid hanging out with my first love these days, too, even though he really wants to be friends now. I just can't do it. It's too weird, too awkward.

 

eh. my attitude after is usually either 1. youre not worth my time anymore or 2. fuck em i dont want them in my life anymore. so theres really no point.

 

Much depends on the nature of the break... as well as whether there was a degree of friendship to begin with.

 

I'm still friends with both my exes. I was friends for both of them for years before dating them.

 

You're nice. Do you always do what people ask you to do ?

This. Sometimes you can just feel that it's really over.
I prefer a clean break, for my own peace and mental health

 

being friends afterwards is usually pretty messy, in my experience.

 

Fuck. Just broke up with someone who, it turns out, was using me. Wish he was dead.

 

I say cut the bitch out of your life like cancer.:2thumbsup:

Hopefully before she takes half of your assets.

 

everyone in a relationship is using the other person, in some way at least.

 

i don't have personal experience with this but i bet this guy does: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b5--Sje98jI"]YouTube - 4 Paul Simon BBC TV (50 Ways To Leave Your Lover)