why are most men bitches?

Sorry, computer tricked me, thought it didn't post the first time.

 

My problem is that it's okay to generalize about men, but not okay to call one woman, who is acting like a total **** by generalizing against men while doing the same thing she is bitching about them doing, a ****.
You are being hypocritical and if you really are going 'to hold it against me', you truly are a royal **** and I'm glad you don't like me anymore.
And really, you can ask for advice without ranting - you were bitching. Liar

 

lol, i don't know about the **** part, but all of that is true....

 

I don't think calling all men bitches is exactly fair after having bad luck with a few in your life. That just creates even more drama by offending other men, who are probably really nice people. Maybe dropping the negative attitude towards them may help attract the positive ones? I don't really see what is so bad about the guy being tied up with work, though, especially if you didn't want a relationship in the first place. I mean no harm by saying that.

 

You guys really need to re read my title. did I say ALL men? NO I said most men and that doesnt mean im generalizing. Most men that I know of.

and Me calling men that bitched, bitches is so WEAK compared to a man calling a woman a **** just bbecause shes speaking out that she is having a problem dating men. You're basically shutting me out for speaking my mind. Look whos the ass now.

Second of all, like the most people here, you wouldnt let me finish what I had to say. After I said "I miss hanging out...." then the idiot started bitching that he was SO busy, I understood that he was fucKing busy, I wasnt going to say "hey hang out with me RIGHT NOW" I just wanted him to know that I just missed hanging out with him....NOW the gentlemen thing to do instead of acting like a bitch to me was to think of a day where he was free or just simply say "I miss hanging out with you too"

So any of you who think they should blame ME for his bitchiness, go fuck yourselves. I know my way around, Im not stuck up at all to think that IM so special, he NEEDS to hang out with me

HES bringing drama to the table, HES doing all the bitching and what did I say in the end? "If you need any help, Im here" So basically I did make something negative into a positive. So mister big shot, am I what you call a **** now? Does that make you feel SO much better when a woman is speaking her mind and asking for help when I just figured it out on my own BTW cause the most of you just decided to blame me and bitch at me

 

Cause when your not home, they wear you're panties and try on your shoes..

I know I would..

 

i would never let my moods get in the way of you getting my cock, thats just fucking stupid.

 

what?

sounds like you are using him for cock and he knows it

 

We can blame you for putting up with it.

Most, and 99% is still generalizing.
Most, is a general term - and 99% describes the general population quite well.

I'm not shutting you out for speaking your mind - I'm calling you a **** because of the particular way you choose to speak it - that's not shutting you out, I'm still talking to you, eh?

 

ps. i forgot to add, that if someone calls you up and says'we need to talk', it is significant. If they then say 'i just miss you' when you ask what about, this is clear indication that you are being insencere about your motives and once again ill say that this looks like a clear case of usery. That doesnt make it malicious but the guy might be having trouble dealing with the situation nevertheless.

 

I'm glad you said "most". I'm a lot of things but a bitch isn't one of them.

 

Ok, "most," then. Still, as Duck posted, "most" is still very much a generalization...

I didn't mean to push the blame on you or make you look like the bad person. I was only trying to offer something to think about.

 

thank you thats all i ask! now why cant HE be like you!

I feel like a broken record with you guys. "Most men that I know of"do i know 99% of guys here? again im not generalizing at all. If i can find one just one single guy like mr writer here, id be FUCKING AMAZED. cause not only do i have to deal with shit being in a relationship, I have to deal with drama when I only want sex. its pissing me off and i cant stand it. I like sex, it feels awesome and I should have NO problem with it but yet again I do. I dunno. they must be drinking the sewer water here

 

Too bad records can't listen at all, eh?
Or else you wouldn't be repeating yourself, and you'd realize how wrong you are.
"Most men.." = general statement = generalizing.

 

Why are all of you girls always complaining about not being able to find Mr. Right... I'm right here No but seriously, most girls don't really want that perfect guy you all talk about, be realistic, guys treat you like shit, or don't provide in a certain way, and you stay with them. I have 3 older sisters so I'm anything BUT a sexist, BUUUUUT, girls do it to themselves by stickin around as long as they do.

 

"getting crunk....get at me" hmmm i wonder if thats my que.....

 

Even "most men" is an unfair generalization. You don't know most men. You haven't met them.

Admit to yourself that these are the men you choose to get involved with. Only then, you will give yourself a chance to meet men who don't fit the pattern you're currently locked into.

 

I suspect this is a waste of energy. I get a sense that the only responses welcome here are "you are so right" posts supporting the premise set out by the op and groveling males apologizing for inherent shortcomings.

If you have a history of bad relationship after bad relationship- there's only one common denominator- you. It seems probably that as long as you're unwilling to look critically at what you're bringing to the table emotionally you're fated to continue dealing with male bitchiness.

 

OK, and then again I don't want to elevate myself in relation to the OP since I have been guilty of generalization in the past. It has been very hard not to project feelings of inadequacy onto others, when my feelings were hurt.

But I think I am arriving somewhere, and honestly, your post about the inherent troublesomeness of "hooking up" still rings in my ears, since it was read by me about the time that I was reaching the same conclusion on my own.

Not wishing to fabricate a universal truism, here's where I'm arriving (and hopefully will continue to arrive): when I seek relationships, I am seeking that which I lack. If I'm able to "find" someone who fills the feeling of lack, that person also finds in me that which fills his or her own void.

Enter relationships as needy role-play. Enter co-dependent relationships. Enter sequential co-dependent relationships sharing the same pattern (because co-dependency does not give me the chance to satisfy my own needs between one partner and the next, only solitude does). Personal space in co-dependent relationships is a no-no. It allows for growth. It gives the other party freedom to be something other than what she or he is supposed to be for me.

The problem with those is that people aren't growing, changing, inspired, complex human beings anymore. They are reduced (in the relationship) to playing comforting, stagnating roles from within little boxes.

In my experience, human beings have a way to pop out of tight little boxes no matter how much work they put into fitting in. And that renders co-dependent relationships unsafe, and makes both parties insecure. Human beings have a way not to be articles of convenience, and so the first thing that co-dependent relationships need to do is to strip them of their humanity.

That being said, it's impossible not to long for a partner. It is easy to say be happy on your own, but everyone I know who are happy on their own is just telling themselves a fairy-tale. They need another like the rest of us mortals.

So what is the answer to the riddle?

 

It's our nature dude, love and be loved right? I think some people just have a stronger need and become impatient and end up in shitty relationships.