Why are you Gay?

SelfControl, you're right, everyone has sexual insecurities...

But to say that we, as a group,(homosexuals) should think about who we are, is so hypocritical, because we all need to think about ourselves as a whole.

And yes, sometimes it is necessary to take these arguements to a personal level in order to emphasize your points...It's aggravation building up, pondering on whether or not the arguement is going anywhere...

 

I take it that goes for eye colour and height as well, i haven't chosen them therefor i've chosen not to have chosen them? hmmm....

 

What if, on Hlaloween, you and your boyfriend went out with your boyfriend dressed as Pan and you really got turned on by him?

--Skeeter

 

Only if you resort to putting down gay people who are comfortable with their sexuality and are out of the closet, solely because they're gay. That's my definition of "gay-bashing."


On the other hand, by freely admitting that you're having trouble understanding what being gay means (which you did), even as you acknowledge your own homoerotic feelings (which you also did), you broadcast (to me, at least), a cry for help. "Help me understand what this is all about."


Don't worry about it too much. A lot of young people go through this. I did when I was your age.

-- Skeeter

 

I hope that was said in jest Jester ** looking Korn-fused **

... hummm a Pan outfit, I might have to reconsider ... now that might be something to try. Wonder if they would come complete with hooves.

I drink whole milk too.. why ?? because the label says "HOMO" milk. LOL

 

It might well be genetic or hormonal or maybe a result of some prescribed drug my mother took while i was in the womb, who knows? Maybe she had a fall while carrying me.

We're all just putting our theorys accross and although i do lean towards thinking its genetic i am open to some ideas because although i have a knowlege that i was born gay I can't prove why i was.

The only one thing i am rigid on is that for me it's not something i have chosen. The thing is I really do believe life would be so much easier if i was attracted to men. Right now i'm having trouble believing that two people of the same sex can make a long term relationship work even with the best of intentions. Dont know, might just be the way i'm feeling but the fact remains it is certainly harder with the added preasure of social 'norms'.

 

There's nothing stopping me choosing to sleep with men but choosing to sleep with men still wouldn't make them sexually attractive to me, so it would be pointless.

If you are refering to the act of sex itself then to a degree we do choose to be sexual with certain people, however the people we choose to be sexual with must first be sexually attractive to us.

If your saying its a 'learned' behaviour then to a degree you are right as well but in the sense that at some point I 'learned' that i dont find guys attractive sexually.

I see what your saying about the religous thing but it doesn't mean your life would be easier if you hadn't went along with it. If you had and it wasn't what you truly felt was 'right' then it would be much harder to live such a big lie than it would be to live with a truth that others dont like.

Different truths can come from different places. Sometimes through choices we make, sometimes the truth is we dont have a choice.

 

When I was living in the San Francisco area in the '80s, I had a gay male friend of mine who on Halloween 1986 attended a costume party dressed as Pan. He was so incredibly sexy in his costume that after the party, our friendship went from platonic to intimate (I moved to Vermont in 1994, but we still keep in touch via e-mail).:H

As for whole milk, I'm lactose intolerant (which is fairly common among African Americans) and will get diahrrea if I drink it. :&

-- Skeeter

 

Congratulations, Jester . . .Just remember to stay true to yourself and don't let anyone put you down for being who you are.

Don't hesitate to e-mail me privately if you feel the need to do so. I'll try to give you as much moral support as I can. I'll send you my e-mail address in a private message.

-- Skeeter