Why Do People Get Married?

Thanks, I think for plural I will use 'thumb downs' from now on.

 

Sorry, I don't take life very serious. :elf:

(Had to remove one of your smileys to add one of my own)

 

Apology accepted

 

From what I have read, she is a USA citizen. The only thing worse than pretentious Europeans or Canadians who base their entire opinion of this place on things they hear or see online - is a citizen who expatriates and then becomes smug about their own culture.

Never forget where you came from is how I live my life.

I've also heard all of that stuff from my mom who's a feminist and travels in search of something. I guess I'm more family oriented.

 

Man, I was really liking downthumbs. The spellcheck, however, votes no, too, so let's stick with thumbs downs.

 

Or we can create a revolution and make 'downthumbs' a real word.

 

Wow, someone just downthumbed your revolution idea.

 

Ya know, from what I hear, if you read something on the internet then it HAS to be true, right? Therefore 'downthumbs' is a real word because this is the internet and you said so.

 

That's fine, most people are too narrow-minded to support a revolution.

 

Especially a linguistic one!

 

Fair enough.

 

Is anyone else put off by the idea of ceremonial marriage? I'm not sure why people have weddings, in the classical sense. The thought of being out on display for a lot of people to see...

Dancing in front of everyone? Being the center of attention? No thank you. The whole thing seems inordinately stressful to me.

 

I like ceremonies in general but I don't dig the traditional "western" wedding format at all. I view it as a stressful thing as well, much like most western holidays seem to be, from my viewpoint. I like tradition, ceremony and celebrating, but not in the ways that a lot of people seem to like.

 

Last wedding I went to I don't think the bride smiled once. Everyone knew she had the shits too. It was embarrassing, I felt sorry for the guy.

 

You felt sorry for the guy because she had the shits? Don't you think she was probably feeling worse, if she had the shits on her wedding day than he did?

 

Imodium AD and Depends ..

 

I definitely don't want a wedding like that.
My sister had over 200 guests at her wedding, and even that is a medium wedding here haha. I would feel very uncomfortable.

I wouldn't mind eloping to Santorini or Mykonos though :sunny:

 

The last thing you want to do when you have the shits is wear white...

I had 200 guests at my wedding too. It's crazy but I had a great time. I would do it again but I totally understand why people would go away to get married. There would be a few little things I would change.

 

Yeah, I even got stressed a little at my brothers wedding haha. But I do understand why the people who have such a wedding want one like that. It's just as easy to understand why you don't like it
But if I'm going to a wedding anyway I prefer the bigger ones, more people so bigger party afterwards. I'm not put off that much by the idea of a big ceremonial marriage but would not be the one come up with the idea or would want to organize it myself. Someone has to really want one in order for me to partake in it

 

I've been married several times..was annoyed and bugged into it.

The first wedding when I was 20 yrs old, was a nightmare. My mom took over and it was all conservative, religious, conventional..
I thought I would lose my mind.
Didn't even WANT to get married-the guy was just my childhood friend.

After that divorce 22 yrs later, in the event some guy friend guilted me into marrying him I left it up to HIM to arrange a "destination wedding" to someplace interesting.
I made my OWN dresses..designed and sewed ballroom dresses and long gloves that I wore at formal dances from then on. Still have (and love!) them. Only a couple of friends attended.
If they had reservations about my marriages, they kept it to themselves.

The rest of the honeymoon was camping, birding, swimming, beaches, having FUN

My last wedding, in 2002 was a blast..on the beach in Florida, surrounded by flocks of circling Black Skimmers..heavenly!

I knew the marriage was likely short-lived but the wedding itself was nothing but net!

I always enjoyed my marriages, though. I just don't behave like a typical "female" so eventually the men would wander off to find someone more domestic.

:sunny: