Why Is Dating So Hard?

I actually tried tracking down the original thread. I think it's one of those where you are complaining about not being able to get any ass. That doesn't narrow things down much though, lol

 

^ well, that's only half the threads i've posted in.

 

Unless you live in the middle of nowhere, you don't need to travel long distances to fuck someone. Just fire up the dating apps and bam.

 

Because it's an emotional rollercoaster for most people, same as job interviews really....first you have the opportunity, then you have a date, you think it's gone at least ok, then you realise it hasn't quite worked out and yeah...that's why it sucks. Speed dating I suspect may be a lot less sucky I think, due to the briefness of each date, which in many ways makes it more consistent with rapidity of attraction & figuring out: Yeah, this person is hot & intriguing...let's keep talking!

 

Dating sucks. I want to be at the point where I know someone and they know me.

 

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LOL sounds like me

I want the result but not the uncertain proces of going on a first date with someone i don't know or have never met.

 

As a dutch guy I already get nervous of the idea she has a principle about the guy paying for the whole date!

 

I never really dated. Well, I went on a few dates but my relationships never came from dates. Dates always felt so forced amd I was never particularly interested in reliving the same experience with the same person twice

My few relationships just developed from hanging out casually, around mutual friends and then alone. My current partner and I started seeing each other after I was invited on a group hike by one of his friends, I liked him so kinda invited myself along on a fishing adventure he had planned, then we went and got drunk with my friends and the next week we got drunk with his friends and then we were an item. Good times

 

So basically....you need to get drunk to start things with a guy

 

Why? Are dutch guys cheap?

 

You never heard? Now that the word is out some try to counter it though
But yes, it's how we as a nation got rich. The jewish peeps got the name but we are the real cheapasses :cheers2:

 

I was going more for the camaraderie established from hanging out with each other's friends, but sure

 

I have never dated. I am always in a relationship

 

Is that where the term "going Dutch" comes from?

 

Dating is hard because technology killed it.

Before cell phones you would have to meet some where to get to know someone. You would go to a place, have fun and decided if you want to do it again.

That doesn't really exist anymore.


Practice

Walk up to a girl and just start talking with her. Ask her a question and let her talk. Women love when you let them talk and you listen. Look into their eyes. Chin up, shoulders strait, hands not in pockets, look warming, but not to serious, be confident, but not arrogant.

You will get turned down a lot. Get used to it. Women know what they want, but when someone finally approaches them they completely forget what they want cause its actually happening. So for you the first 30 seconds is key.

Practice.

Now its all a numbers game. Get numbers tell someone picks up.

It comes down to getting a phone number. Once you have that number its all preference. I text the next day asking when she is free, not to do something, but to call so she can hear my voice. Texting doesnt hear emotions or tone.

Big Grocery Stores are perfect. You can talk about all kinds of stuff because people are shopping, so what they are looking at is your conversation starter.

Beta males don't get it.

Alphas do.

 

I was just being a dick, you know that.

I understand, be has to get his moves down first

 

"Cooler Chicks" aren't all that plentiful these days, many are so entitled as to think they should wear a crown just for being alive.

A legend in their own minds.

 

Always wondered why all those alpha males want to go to the supermarket on their first dates

Also... calling someone (or texting someone so that she will call you) you only know because you've aqcuired her phone number to let her hear your voice, not to do anything.

I agree with some (parts of) sentences in that post of ArtOfJacob, only to shake my head at the rest. Too specific i guess. What works for you does not work for everybody else. Practice helps but not if you follow tips that don't fit you or your date (yes not all dates dig the same approach/tactics, like going to a big grocery store to watch people shop for example)

 

There are people here who can get a date?

 

You say that like hanging out on Internet forums is NOT the epitome of sexy.