why the fuck do people get married??

haha not more than 20 people for me!

 

why the fuck do people get married??

Good question.​

If people didn't get married, then there wouldn't be divorce.​

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I think, the act of marriage is for security reasons, usually in favor of the woman and her children, when cases of alimony, and child support are involved.​

 

why can't people just settle things by communicating properly together though? - I mean when there's such things as kids involved.. most relationships/marriages fail because of communication issues..

 

People get married so that they can re-decorate their kitchen(the whole house if they know enough people) and save money by giving away leftover gifts as Christmas prezzies the following year.

 

haha I guess one good thing about getting married is getting money and kitchen appliances :tongue:

 

all joking aside, i was in one long term relationship for about 9 years. when shit went wrong, it was ridiculously easy to walk away. had we been married, i maighta tried to stick it out and get through those times.

i lived with dave for 2 years before he proposed, and it IS different than just living together and being committed to each other. there's a bond, and team mindset in there that's more permanent that before.

but most people i know DON'T see the difference, therefore i don't think they should get married. why make promises is you don't think you can keep them?

 

I'm never getting married. There are a lot of reasons for this, which I posted in a very similar thread awhile back. (I wish I could find it so I could copy that into here, but I can't)

I think Penny already hit on a lot of my points though.

No reason for all that paperwork. I don't need shit like that to keep me faithful, or vice versa.

I honestly think marriage is another form of slavery. "Hey, promise yourself to me forever, no matter if you change, or I change, along the way. We're stuck with each other." If those people really loved each other, they'd want nothing more than for the other to be happy, whether that meant staying together or coming apart. I'm not saying relationships don't last, because they do. But people do change, and that's no lie.

What I want is a good, solid relationship with someone who cares about me. I don't need anything else. If we could stay together forever, it would be beautiful. And if we parted, I'd hope we could stay friends because of the time we'd had together (if we ended on good terms).
My point is, the length, or finality, of the relationship is not what matters. It's the quality.

Another good reason I can't/won't get married is that if I do find someone to spend my life with, it will likely be a female! And gay marriage is yet to be legalized in Alabama. Not that I care. I really want nothing to do with marriage. It's all bull.

 

OK. I believe in marriage. I just don't think that it's for everybody.

But yeah, I suppose i would like to get married one day.

 

Why not just do common law? What's the big deal?

I think traditional marriage is fucking selfish.

 

I really do want to get married. But I dont want to be a housewife. NEVER EVER!!!

I cant cook, I hate cleaning, I dislike kids...Who's gonna marry me ?

 

:hurray: :agree:
IMO best way to go!

 

I can cook, don't mind cleaning and can't stand kids:rockon:

 

Well , you are a perfect guy !

 

to me, and that's to *me* (and maybe other people, I don't know) being in a committed relationship with someone is the same sort of "promise" as being married, really. I wouldn't work harder on a relationship because of marriage. it really is no big deal to me. I wouldn't ask more of my husband than I would ask my boyfriend.. because I just don't live my life in planning.. rather on a daily/weekly motion.. and.. you know.. whatever happens happens.. you can't predict how the relationship is gonna turn out, why not get/get married because what it may/may not entail? I guess I mean.. why be/not be with someone.. because as I said to be being married or not doesn't change anything if not paper. As far as the love symbol goes.. it definitely doesn't have to be marriage. Could be nice.. but really wouldn't change anything at all, just.. a nice ceremony and some easiness in some stuff legally wise.

 

I sorta have a proposal in mind.

It's pretty easy to see why people who love each other would want to pledge themselves in a big ceremony.

What's all this cranky stuff?

 

I don't mind doing housework. SOMEBODY has to do it. So somebody should. It doesn't matter who, just whoever has the most time.
And what does housework have to do with marriage, really? Housework comes with.... well, living in a house!!!

 

I'm definitely not at all traditional and old-fashioned when it comes to the marriage question. Most marriages fail (if not for communication issues.. but that's really just relationships) because people get married in that traditional, old-fashioned mind-set. The key is to not have a mind-set and just do whatever without analyzing it. Things have meaning cause you give them meaning.

 

That's why I don't mind doing it. I want to live in a house and don't want it a complete mess, so what else am I going to do?

 

Yes, yes, and yes! But that's just how I feel. I don't begrudge other people's getting married. I just don't understand why they would do it.
A ceremony (neither religious nor legal), a celebration of peoples love.... well, that doesn't sound too bad!

 

Ive never been aroun failed marriages. So I just know two people can be happy and in love.