Wife had "room sex" before we married

You've been married for 16 years, and this happened long before that. Is it going to effect your life in any way now? No, unless you stay hung up on it.

 

Welcome to Hip Forums, everybody is a little cautious with peoples first time post, especially if it is about sex. I hope you stay here.

 

So your wife's character was good enough for you for the past 16 years
but now it is not ?

 

Nobody used the word "trolling". He said "will be seen as a troll".

Looks like that word you know nothing about came right from your head.

 

Just because I wouldn't do something today doesn't mean that I regret doing it in the past.
:reddevil:

 

Good. More good feedback.

YES, it IS my hangup. I'm well aware of this. That's why I am posting this situation/question.

I was looking for a bit of consensus from some good, open-minded people. And the vast majority of you offered me your frank opinions, for which I am appreciative.

Yes, it has been a bit of a hangup for ME, but as you have all suggested, it is time for me to move on. Yes, I am extremely fortunate to have married such a wonderful woman.


[I'm not replying to the silly "troll" vs. "trolling" foolishness. Think whatever you want. I'm not leaving.]

 

If you have been married for 16 years and still have a good marriage you are blessed

 

and it's not really that bad anyway

 

you're just jealous that nobody watched you having sex with her.

 

1. Double morality.

2. You consider your wife a thing.

Sorry, wrong thinking in my book.

 

agreed

 

Ooohh, forgot .... maybe you should spank her pussy more often.

That should do it.

 

You first say you're an exhibitionist, and then act like it bothers you.

I don't even give a fuck, people have sex.... I'm too self conscious to walk around naked, but not enough so that it would bother me if I'm gettin' some-after all it's me, and not the people watching, so I don't have much to be ashamed of.

I mean, did you not go to college or something?

*edit* modern dorms tend to have multiple bedrooms and a shared bathroom/common area. As it is, people fuck, you see them, you need something and your room mates fucking, you go in. In old fashioned dorms, the beds are a few feet apart, it's like a fusion of one room apartments and barracks. If you have sex, you can't try to hide, because your room mate lives there too, and has friends too, etc.

 

Nice! She does love that, by the way.

RooRshack, no SHE says SHE'S a bit of an exhibitionist. Yes, I went to college and lived in the dorms for a while. My dorm rooms were like you described: one little bitty room with a bed on each side, only a few feet apart. We used the universal "towel on the doorknob" signal to mean "I'm gettin' busy; don't bother us right now..." And I went to a technical/engineering school that had so few women that there was far too little sex going on anyway.

So, once again, you have helped me realize how up-tight I am and that it's my hang-up.

 

So you told us in that other thread .... :eggnog:

 

i just came here to find out what the heck room sex was!

 

Now that you know, what're you going to do?

 

I`d be more concerned about why it is that she told you that, unless you asked for it. But it does seem to fit in with the exhibitionism somehow, that she would just run her mouth. I`m not a big fan, unless the exhibitionism is agreed upon with the voyeur.

The rest of it just seems insensitive to me. I certainly don`t want to unknowingly barge into anyone having sex. And, volunteering unasked-for details about one`s sexual past to me is grounds to stop seeing that person.

Then again, you`re married, so I have no advice for you by definition.

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Would you say she`s a sensitive person?

 

Come on, folks, does this thread HAVE to become a "flame war?"

Oh, I see... You are one of those "I've posted over 600 times," folks on this forum and you're being SARCASTIC about the fact that I, new guy, have posted lots of sexual details, right? (Good Lord, I even started my own thread!)

Instead, as an "insider" on this forum, you'd prefer that I, a new person, hang on the sidelines for some undocumented period of time,right?

Is your status on this forum such a part of your ego that you've got to go all Alpha on me? Get a life.

Cherea,

Yes, I asked her about it, that's how it came up.

(WARNING TO GHOST - MORE SEX DETAILS AHEAD!!!)

My wife, who is 46, recently had a "sexual awakening," and is now almost insatiable (which is excellent). I am understanding many middle-aged women go through this. As a result, we have been talking about lots of things. It's great intimacy, but she is an open and honest person.

Yes, sometimes she is honest to the point of being insensitive. I do not think she intends to be. She just tells it like it is.

GHOST WARNING OFF

But, again, the majority of the feedback says it's my hangup, so I've decided to get over it. My wife is great and gives me so many reasons to love her dearly, I just need to overlook this as crazy college/dorm/lack-of-privacy stuff.

 

Fair enough. Good luck in your travails! :2thumbsup: