Wife's libido GONE. Progesterone cream, etc? Help needed!!!

Sounds like either, she was originally just "putting out" to satisfy you, and is now complacent that she's got ya by the balls;

OR(and?)

She resents you acting like she has a problem for not wanting sex (to a point, she's right... only to a point) and is of the opinion that she'll do what ever the fuck she feels like when she feels like it... it's like reverse psychology...

My solution: "fine, you're fucking nasty, I wouldn't sticky my dick in that if you where tied spread eagled to the bed, I'm going to watch porn " (then wack off all you have a mind to)

She's got the right to be frigid, and you've got the right to beat off until she stops being frigid. Use this right. Bet it doesn't take her long. You're letting her control your shit, and as long as you don't bring other people in without her consent, you're free to do as you want. When she realizes she doesn't have a monopoly on your ability to sexually please yourself, if she's interested, she'll come round.

 

Everbody lies

Is she the first human you've encountered?

And you really need to ask us what the problem is?

 

"If she had a medical/physical issue that made it impossible to have sex would you still walk away. Or would you work around that with her? In other words if all had of been fine and for some reason a medical condition changed things what would you of done or do?

You made a child with someone you had issues already with? Why?

After that many years your statement about marriage/engagement/commitments rings rather odd. For all intents and purpose you are in the same situation as married. Same responsibilities. You do not play house without the house possibly coming down around your ears.

People with open communication normally do not get into these muddles as they sort through be it emotional issue causing physical or physical issues that possibly could be changed. I am not by this statement inferring that you are not the only one who is not openly communicating.

What do you really want out of all of this, other than more sex? Not that wanting sex in your relationship is not a good thing but it is only one part of a relationship."




Hello Fastline, I've read your posts and yes, this scenario is not uncommon. I'm married 18 years and we had perhaps our biggest crisis this year when she outed me as bisexual. Not that your problem is the same, but it is a relationship problem and relationship problems are joint - they have to be solved by both of you.

There are always two sides to any relationship problem - we're only hearing your side and I have to say you sound a bit chauvenistic.

Both of you having shrinks is not good enough - you need to talk to some sort of counsellor together. I/we're been there - and not necessarily some expensive psycho-analyst. There can be so many reasons - kids, life issues make so many demands and changes on our relationships and it needs to be a joint navel-gazing.

A bit way-out, but useful book for discussion on either opening-up your relationship or alternatives, is Tristan Taomino's "Opening-up" or a new one I'm just reading, and less 'way-out', "Love Unlimited - by Leonie Linssen & Stephen Wik.

The last one might be harder to get in the US. Both on open realtionships which might be too far in front yet for your partner but good for stimuating the thought processes and ways of approaching marital crises that have sex as part of the issue.

There are also some wonderful online forums for where both partners love each other and want to save their relationships - not sure if that's where you are or not from what you write: HUGS (couples have to join separately but as a couple), or MOMW - making mixed orientation marriages work; this might be too far in front yet for you two.

Sexual problems between two partners are generally only part of the problem and indciate some deeper underlying ones. If you love your partner then go slow, take time and see if you can approach your relationship in a different way,

Good luck,

Simon

 

sent a PM.

 

Where would I find the PM section of my profile? Looked nearly everywhere, cannot find it.

 

you do not have enough posts yet to receive PM..

 

Scroll up to the top of the page, where it says "View Next Unread Post", then look to the left of that & there is the Users Log In Box. In there is a small text link to your Messages.

 

nope, not there...

 

isn't that rape? hardly think that's appropriate!

 

I was actually going to say the same thing. That's not hot that's plain dumb.

 

I don't know if Progesterone works, but I've heard that being a good, caring partner works wonders on a relationship. Both emotionally and sexually...

 

I assumed you had balls?????

 

It was joke. I was insinuating that although I don't know if the cream works, based on the OP's posts he sounds like a shitty partner and should change that instead of buy cream.

I'm not that gay

 

I think it was actually just said as a joke...:afro:

I highly doubt that was anything serious at ALL...

 

I always love when people draw huge conclusions based on a few posts on a world wide forum... Sorry to bust your bubble dude but my wife would certainly put you in your place in about 5 seconds and hang you by your peach fuzz pubes just to watch you squeal like a girl. I stand in her corner and she stands in mine. Did you ball descend yet?

You don't get all the facts because you don't NEED all the facts. If I wanted my whole life story on the Inet, I would call Dr Phil and schedule an appt. Grow up...

 

Not sure what my balls have to do with this but;

I'm sure you're a fine husband. It was a joke. One that clearly failed on my behalf...

 

Who knows? She never seemed like the jokey type, is all.

However, Lunar is. And rather ironically, might I add.

 

oh well, we iz all friendy wendys

 

You sound like Russell Brand, "Booky Wooky"