Women like to be submissive?

This article only applies to christian relationships, it is about the man taking the spiritual lead, so to speak. And it is common knoweldge that conservative Christians feel that the man is the head of the household. But I think I can swing a secular point out of it.

Are you using this article to imply that couples without christian spirituality are more likely to be unhappy in their marriages? It seems to me that it is maybe just a spin on the statistics. I would think that their more successful marriages stem from the fact that they have a clear definition of their roles, and the couples aren't always trying to one-up, or dominate eachother (which leads to lots of bickering and can eventually lead to the end of the relationship). You don't need to be a christian couple to have that - just that the religion likely helps people define that for themselves, to fall into that place. But I am no expert on the matter, I just try to be a realist.

For all general purposes, I am the "head of the household" in my and my husbands marriage, (I wear the pants, so to speak) and my husband likes that just the way it is. He is more of a go-with-the-flow kinda guy....nothing would get done if it were left up to him (trust me, we have experimented with this). So I lead, and he supports - and rocks at it. And we get along beautifully (generally until around my time of the month when my temper is a little short =/ )

It seems like too many people think successful relationships just happen. The whole fairy tale "happily ever after" thing. It seems to me that conservative christians are a group of folks who know better though. I was raised and educated baptist, and they tought me in school that love and marriage is a choice and above everything else, it is work. Give and take. Rough roads, and tough situations will eventally come up (they also taught me the man is the head of the household - but I learned how to distinguish for myself what is useful and what is just flat-out behind the times). A successful couple will put effort into their relationship to keep it alive and healthy. If this is a fundamental of christian religious ideals, then it isn't hard to see why they would report higher satisfaction in their marriages. You don't need the religion to have your head on straight when it comes to marriage. But I can see how it helps....

 

i do respect a guy that takes control, but if hes a jerk, hes out period. i also dont like submissive guys either, who have no backbone..i cant trust that sorta person.
i guess i personally go for either/both, a take control, stong, outspoken guy or the sweet, queit guy. but there are limits for either type of personality, and some lines, to me, you cant cross. but furthermore, alot more goes to liking someones personality, and i guess if a girl really cares for a guy, she has the right to deal with his flaws, if its just or not is really up to her

 

From a biological standpoint, women are attracted to men who have physical strength, good looks, and are aggressive (not in a beat you up way, but in a go out and conquer the world way) and dominant. The alpha male is most likely to be a good provider, protector, and virile. Hormonally, we are attracted to the alpha male when we ovulate, our primal bodies/minds want a man who is going to provide enough fresh meat and protect us and our babies from wild animals and invading warrior tribes. Our eggs crave a man who is going to father healthy, beautiful children. Our biological evolution has not quite caught up with our societal evolution; we have been hunter/gatherers much longer than we have been living in cities and getting our meat and veggies from supermarkets.
Those males with strong dominant traits are woefully out of place in our modern society, no wooly mammoths to hunt, poor things, so their energy is turned into being jerks or "hunting" new female conquests and dominating and ruling their women instead of their tribe. Most men eventually turn that energy into becoming good providers in an urban setting, getting their hunting thrills and using their strategies in the workplace, making money instead of killing mammoths and thus providing for the family.

However, when we are not ovulating, or when we are finished having children, our desires turn to a more gentle man, one who will be a kind companion and friend. But even women in that kind of relatioship, when ovulating, will turn her head at the rough and ready alpha male and say, "Mmmm, mmm, MM!"