Women who prefer to play their 'role'

I like being at home doing "girly" work, but I also like to bring in some cash and hope to own my own storefront business some day.

I think the man should understand that I do these things because I like to do them (i love taking care of my kids and husband), not because it is "womans work" because if it turns into that kind of a situation where these things are expected of me just because I am a woman I will say 'FUCk OFF" and get out of that situation immediately.
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I dont like it when people think being a SAHM is all cake and cookies...
my aunt was a SAHM and she would tell me stories that would keep me up at night

 

RE: I think the man should understand that I do these things because I like to do them (i love taking care of my kids and husband), not because it is "womans work" because if it turns into that kind of a situation where these things are expected of me

However, he should also understand he's on the hook to be the prime breadwinner and that it's expected of him to carry on with the finances regardless of what you feel like doing that particular moment, e.g. one month you're baking cookies, the next you want to make some money, etc.

 

Shroomy


Before I was a SAHM, I thought it had to be the easiest job around, but I had a rude awakening. It wasn't so bad when I just had my oldest son, but once I had my twins...that's another story.

Right now my twins are 2 years old. Enough said. *lol* They're napping right now, but I have to pick my oldest up from kindergarten in like, 20 minutes.

 

I can imagine the phone call -

"Hi, honey. As of right now you have three children. How many you have when you get home depends on how quickly you get home from work."

 

different people have different relationships. what works for some doesn't work for others. dave and i have a very traditional relationship. though we're also very flexible. currently our children and home are my job. once the children are in school, naturally i'll be back to school to get my nursing degree. the less time required by my children, the more time i'll dedicate to supplementing our income. it's kinda hard right now, financially, but we both consider it worth it. but it was a well thought out and planned sacrifice, me quitting work to raise our kids. i'm changing careers anyway, when all is said and done. but both dave and i are from your standard broken home, so #1 priority is stability for our daughters. but, at the same time, we're not so traditional that the thought of me working is shocking or even undesireable. i have a job. i do it well.