Would a hooker help with sexual anxiety?

I don't think a hooker would help, since you say you already tried with a sexually experienced girl. You'd just be out some money.

You need to relax, and try a lot of foreplay, let her guide you in...

 

I agree. I don't think a prostitute is the answer. Obviously I have no experience with hookers, but I would think that the pressure on you would be even greater in that situation.

My opinion is that if you find a good woman you really, really like and just take your time, you'll be fine. You're a young man ... I don't see this being a serious problem for you for very long.

 

Save your cash and just beat off.

 

Okay, please don't get a hooker. From a girl's perspective, just be honest with her. It's all in your head, and you can control it.

I had a boyfriend that started shaking the first time we had sex. Neither of us were virgins, but I guess it had been years since he had sex, so he was just kind of freaked out. A couple of weeks later, we shared a bottle of wine, and he was good to go. I wouldn't recommend drinking excessively because that could cause more problems, but maybe you just need a little alcohol to loosen up a bit.

You should be scared of getting an STD from a hooker. They have sex for a living. They have sex with so many people, the likelihood that they would have an STD is much greater than your lady. 1/5 men have herpes and 1/4 women do.. many people just don't know they have it, but they can still spread it. If you fuck a hooker, get an STD, and then finally get the nerve to please your woman, you will give it to her, and then you'll probably have even more psychological issues.

 

I don't see how a woman's perspective is either valid or helpful to the question in the original post. Women will never be with hookers nor do they experience impotence.

Maybe the women participating in this thread would like some menstruation advice from the OP?

 

He's asking about advice with his lady. AS A WOMAN, I know that if my boyfriend is upfront with his problem, it will be easier to both work through. I gave a similar experience. If you have a problem, then you can have the crack-whores and the STD's pal, but don't waste your time on a girlfriend because then you'll just give your crabs and shit to her, and that's not cool.

I wouldn't know what I'm talking about, though. I mean, how could I.. I'm just a woman.

 

Awful rapid assumptions in your post. From what I understand, the OP does not have a girlfriend. Obviously, if he had a gf the thing to do would be to work it out with her.

I am also not of the opinion that a hooker will be any different than a conventional hook up. Some women will be sympathetic, some won't...regardless of their profession. lol

You would also be happy to know that I've been with multiple prostitutes in the past and I have not contracted a single STD in my life, as my most recent STDs test has shown.

On the other hand, I've know people who have gotten crabs who have never utilized the services of sex workers. In fact, the overwhelming majority of people with crabs (or any other STD, for that matter) have not been to prostitutes; it's a safe assumption.

And I am sure unprotected sex is infinitely more common in instances of casual sex, than sex with sex workers (not including the porn industry, of course).

That does not mean that you're stupid for being a woman. It simply means women have no experience with sex workers and impotence. Much like I'm not stupid for having no experience of menstruation.

 

I'm sure he's happy to see what a woman thinks... after all, his problem is with women.

And you probably have an STD and just don't know it yet. Most people who have herpes, don't know it.

 

I've been tested for herpes on more than one occasion. There are adequate herpes testing using blood and urine samples. Sorry to shatter your prejudice that every single instance of sex with a sex worker incurs an STD infection. Or, alternatively that every sex worker has an STD. Or that sex workers have more STDs than women in other professional brackets.

They don't, on all counts.

Of course, I'm sure the OP welcomes the active participation of women in this thread from their perspective. I just don't see how a woman would have any element with which to respond to the original question other than prejudice; that's all.

 

His question was about his sexual anxiety. I had a similar experience with a guy, and I gave insight on how we worked it out.

I wouldn't take advice from someone who pays for sex regularly, either. That's not healthy for anyone involved.

 

I paid for sex on four occasions, and I am as healthy as ever. So, the OP is considering going to a prostitute and he shouldn't take advice from someone who's been with one? You also assume that my advice is that he should see a hooker, when it isn't.

Doesn't it get heavy up in the head having so many prejudices about things you know nothing about? :smilielol5:

 

The cheapest way to go about it is to find that sexually experienced friend of yours, find some black market viagra, explain the situation to the girl, and let er rip. After you get it on a few times, you shouldnt have the same anxiety. I have never really tried this out myself, but I remember someone was giving out viagra for free, think it was at a gathering, and I couldnt help think to myself, I dont need it, but that would be fun to try. Of course I dont eat any pills, not even asprin, and I was a bit more granola back then, so I guess I was morally apposed to takin a pill. But for you, hey, thats what its there for.

 

Just relax and be honest with the next girl your with, if they are worth your time then they will be understanding.

If you go with a hooker I would go all out and pay for a "girlfriend" expierence where you spend the day with them, so you can actually get to know them. It might replicate your situation better.

 

I know exactly what the OP is going through.

Had the same thing happen when I dated a rape victim at one point and then my ex-fiance which was also a cold note in the sack.

I'll point to my ex-fiance because I was with her much longer.

I actually went out of my way to set romantic moods, and believe me, that's just her personality, she would be horny either once in a blue moon or when she was drunk, and she rarely drank, also it felt wrong having sex with a drunk girl even though she was my fiance because it felt weird as that was the only way she would be turned on.

90% of the time we had sex I initiated the contact and of all the positions and energy I put into every session she would be half assed at it.
She was a workaholic, through and through, and soon my sex drive went down to her level.

Hiring an escort, although I have not personally done it, is a fair way out, but you shouldn't rush, you should get to know an agency, I have several friends who have hired an escort once or twice and they went with an agency they discussed with another guy.

There is of course the whore alternative, go to a club or a party and spot a girl out to get fucked, if you can't, be sure to go with a wing man or two to help you out.

But as has been mentioned, there is the STD factor, believe it or not, having sex with a random college girl at a party carries more risk than a high end escort.

DO NOT go to a large scale escort service, the girls there can always rip you off by taking your money and bailing, better to go to a lower scale escort agency with 3 or 4 girls where the agency is run by one person.

Or go to personals, not on craiglist, you can find self employed escorts from escort agencies, since most personals worked for an agency and decided to go on their own, but hold ad space for agencies to get their name out.

A personal escort tends to be nice, and if you explain your situation, they will most likely find it cute and probably spend more time with you, you could pay them for an hour and they spend two because they are people too and wouldn't mind having some fun with an " innocent " young guy than some fat old drunk, get me?

Good luck.

 

is that because it takes really large warts to reach the G spot?
Anyways i followed your advise ... i slept with 2 hookers last night, hopefully i will get the warts ... whats herpes?

 

Ever heard of a sexual surrogate? They're basically a trained therapist who fucks clients.

 

What always helps me is getting shit faced drunk, I lose the anxious feeling and don't have to worry about a softy. I have the same issues.

 

Me either, I'd like an explanation too, actually.

 

Do some kind of tantric sex workshop.