Would you let your 16 old?

Pretty rare? Smart kids don't do it? Many years ago when I was in highschool it was us smart kids in the college prep classes that had the best weed. My son the smoker has a 3.95 GPA and a scholarship.

As a pot smoker I certainly don't seek or need your respect. When you raise teenagers I'm sure yours will always do exactly you say, only what you allow, and will do anything for your respect.

Also we are not discussing a child, we are talking about young adults the same age as you Silverclover. You appear to feel you are old enough to make decisions for yourself, why are other teenagers different?

I dont necessarily agree. I have five children, four of whom are teenagers and I stand firm on my view of teens and weed. If you are 16 or 17, get good grades, hold a job and exhibit responsible behaviour, I am certainly not going to worry if you are smoking weed. I don't let my son smoke in the house, but I don't worry what he was doing behind the house.

 

"And some are harder drug dealers, "gawthicks", gang members, dropouts, and general losers. In schools, generally the smart kids don't do it. Sure there's exceptions, but it's pretty rare."

Well, I graduated 6th in my class, taking college courses, had a job, great relationship with my parents, photographer for the yearbook, volunteered at the elementary school, went to college, grad. with a 4.0, have two children who I raise quite well, continue to go to school, have two jobs, and a great family life! Oh, and I smoke, too. How stupid am I! I am such a loser!

To orig. poster-since my kids are only 6 and 2, I haven't had to worry about making that decision, yet. But, I plan on being open with them, explain the consequences about it (it being illegal) and let them know that they can trust me with anything and I will not judge them.

 

We're talking 16 year olds here! I'm amazed at how many parents would condone their children smoking pot. It really boggles my mind! I mean, once they're 18, fine, but before that? Not with my blessing.

I can't be one of the only ones who feels this way!

 

You're not. (See my post)

 

i wouldnt try to stop my child from weed or anything especially if he was a ogod kid like you described- i think the best parenting method is letting them learn things for themselves censorship and controlling behavior gets parents nowhere

 

"We're talking 16 year olds here! I'm amazed at how many parents would condone their children smoking pot. It really boggles my mind! I mean, once they're 18, fine, but before that? Not with my blessing.
I can't be one of the only ones who feels this way!"

Well, the point is not if we would LIKE it if our teenager smoked weed, the point is, do you want to know what your kid is doing or not? You can be open with them and know what they're doing, or they can do it behind your back. Did you read my last post? I mean what's so hard to understand or amazing about us saying we don't want our kids finding some drug dealer on a street corner who has crack as well as weed or something, because they have to sneak around? People get in trouble when they have to sneak around!

 

Hahahaha this thread is funny.

Hell, I'de let my 14 year old son smoke weed every day, even if he was failing school and burnt the bible and told me he'd probably do mushrooms too.

The only thing I wouldnt let him do is smoke crack or snort coke.

Highschool is a fucking joke.

I dont give a fuck what your answer was to this thread... You are going to let your kid smoke weed no matter what... theres not shit your going to do to stop them if they really want to.
the best thing you can do it be supportive of them instead of isolating them and making them feel different for smoking weed.

The bad fucking parents are the overbearing assholes who punish their kids at every whim instead of trying to understand them

 

Well, all I know is I went to some extremely bad neighborhoods and got into some dangerous situations sneaking around to do what my parents wouldn't let me do.(just about) Every single one of you knows you did the same thing! I just would rather Jeremy tell me what he's going to do so I can KNOW he's safe

 

I agree, It makes more sence to know what the kid is doing than having him/her lie to you about it.
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we're talking smoking pot here. I know it's illegal and that's what would bother me, but it's not that harmful other than the illegality. it's better than letting your kids try cigarettes and those are legal! I really don't get the point from a lot of you mom's. My mom didn't let me and I rebelled. then she let me and I stopped.

Can some of you mom's that are against it explain a little more about your thoughts on it to me? No one that isn't a mom because they just don't know what it's like to be responsible for someone else's life.

 

Well, I guess this is kind of a complicated issue for me. As I stated before, I have no personal problem with marijuana. It's natural, much more healthy than the man-made drugs that are circulating about with so many detrimental side effects, has beneficial medicinal value, and really, the whole illegal ordeal is ludricrous. It's a plant, and it seems demented to put restrictions on something that grows from the earth.

But for my husband and I, our views on raising our children are that we have to be responsible, and not encourage certain behaviors, especially when the children are not old enough to understand or handle them, at least, in our opinion. I suppose it's more of a fear of them getting into worse situations. And of course, it's illegal, and God forbid that one of our children got caught with it and was convicted. How could we live with ourselves knowing that we allowed, or encouraged the behavior that lead to that very situation? Or, what if our children became involved with heavier substances, in which case they ended up severely addicted, and completely flushed their lives down the drain? That's the angle from which we're looking at. Simply protecting our children.

Both my husband and I grew up in strict homes. Although my mother was a hippy, a peace loving, tree-hugging, natural mama, she held firm on certain issues, and my parents held a tight reign on me. She never preached to my sister or I, but I grew up "fearing" my parents in a, I suppose healthy way, and not wanting to disappoint them. That being said, I never once dabbled with drugs as a teen, and I didn't have sex until I was 18, and it was with my husband, although we didn't end up marrying until 2 years later. I was a pretty good kid, and I didn't go behind my mother's back about anything. I was upfront always. When I first had sex, I told her the very next day. When I first tried pot, I was 18, and I also told her of that too. Was she thrilled? Not particularly, but she didn't shun me either. I was once a heavy-drinker, and I had her extremely worried for a while. But still, she was extremely open with me, she listened, and she offered her unconditional love. So, I never felt the need to sneak behind her back.

I know that people live different lives, they grow up in different environments where some may see certain things as acceptable, and others, not. For me and my children, I feel that I have to be responsible and not encourage certain behaviors. While I understand some people stating that they would much rather their child be in their own home doing these types of things, where do you draw the line? Where do you step up as the one in charge of your children's lives and say "no"? Pot, cigarettes, alcohol, sex? I think sometimes children that are heavily involved in these activities might be crying for help in a way. Are they spinning out of control and need someone to lead them in a different direction, some stability, someone to really listen to them?

I don't know, just a few thoughts. Everyone parents differently.

Peace.