You know you're bi, but still get married.....

If a bi (single) guy is getting serious about his girlfriend------and he is sensing that she would not at all be happy with her (future) husband enjoying sex with other guys-------I think that said fellow should look elsewhere for a girlfriend who is truly open to said guy "getting down and dirty" with other guys--------better safe than sorry---------

 

Ideally, you'd be right... but here's what some guys think: Being married and getting to nail the wife will make the craving for cock go away. That's about the time they find out that no amount of pussy will make that craving for dick go anywhere. They truly believe that they can resist the call of cock and some do... and some find themselves in the worst situation a bisexual can be in. Oh, wait - the one situation that makes it even worse is discovering your bisexuality after you get married.

Still, it puts a bisexual in a very bad place and beginning with not knowing how to tell their spouse that they're bisexual - and without getting cut off at the knees. Which is why when I got married again, I told my soon-to-be wife that I have been bisexual all of my life and I do not ever plan on giving up being a cocksucker and if knowing this didn't sit well with her, well, we shouldn't be together because I refuse to be with a woman who isn't going to accept me as I am. That's me; that's not a lot of other guys.

 

KDaddy 23: You REALLY hot the nail on the head here------that desire for guy/guy sex is NOT going to just disappear into thin air just because you are "doing" the wife (or-in fact-any other gal);it would appear that-with a lot of bi guys who are "bethrothed"------denial of their urges to be with a guy for sex can-I think-can fire up those urges to a still greater intensity--------------

 

Yours truly has read of bi guys getting pegged by their wife (or other girl) and fantasizing that it was another guy plowing their butt ("the real thing" if you will); too-----I know that there are guys-when fucking their wife/gal pal/etc-they often are thinking about what it would feel like to be banging another guy's butt; of course-no two guys (bi/gay/otherwise) are exactly alike-----

 

One now has to wonder what "bi curious" really constitutes: IF a "straight" guy finds that he is harboring thoughts/fantasies of sex with other guys------could it be that he-deep down-has ALWAYS bi-but not only just realizing it-but cannot "fess up" and be HONEST with the reason behind these thoughts/fantasies? Worried that he could be (horrors!) GAY-when-in fact-he is-in reality-attracted to BOTH genders?

 

When it boils right down to it "sexuality" is expressing both WHO and WHAT you are; personally-I think that there are quite a few "straight" guys who really are bi-but-who-through society's opinions and religious teachings-totally put that "notion" that they just really could be bi-attracted to both genders------gay-bi-straight-----what the hell------enjoy SEX without fear of being LABELED-----do what YOU want-----and ignore the ignorant bigots and other jerks who think otherwise-----------

 

Thought for the day: "SEX is SEX-----REGARDLESS of the genders taking part"! Just "go with the flow" (pun intended!)

 

I would say that "bicurious" means exactly what it says - a curiosity about being able to have sex (or whatever) with women and men... and specifically sex with men, i.e., what's it like to suck cock, to be sucked by a guy, to be fucked by a guy and to fuck a guy's ass. For a lot of men, sure - they might be curious about it but they're not of a mind to do anything about it and for a lot of reasons including being married.

True enough, some guys are in a form of self-denial about their interest in men, which is understandable when you know how invasive and insidious the social conditioning against homosexuality is so, yeah, a guy finds himself "attracted" to men in some way and it causes a conflict and can only be "resolved" by denying that they feel the way they do about men. That alone is enough to keep a curious guy "on the bench" and fearful of jumping into the deep end. Or they're happy with whatever sexual fantasies their minds can conjure up rather than to find out what it's like to be sexually intimate with another man.

It's just sex. It's always been just sex before religion and our social norms came along to declare sex unimportant and that sex with a man will get you sent to hell so you can burn for all of eternity - and you will be killed for it because God said so. Those of us who knows the truth can and should ignore the hatred and all that bullshit; it's not my fault that you'd rather believe a bald-faced lie than the truth of human nature and sexuality.

And I have better things to do than to pay attention to that which I know isn't true... but it's still true that the worse thing ever is to be bi - or even bicurious - and married/in a relationship... unless you marry someone who's willing to change some rules.

 

KDaddy23: Again-thank you for sharing your astute opinions and beliefs on this topic; if only what you say here was the rule-rather than the exception-when in regards to "straight" society; as you and I both know-there are those who are thoroughly terrified of the truth-so they put up barriers/walls for protection against it-------think of all the "brainwashing" that takes place-----starting at an early age-and the recipient is not in the least aware of what is transpiring------

 

Well, right up until one gets introduced to the truth, which tends to break the social conditioning and... who knew that having sex with a guy could be so exciting and good? And if you didn't know, now you know. You can still marry since your sexuality has nothing to do with your life plans to marry, have and raise a family, all that stuff a man's supposed to do and life is good right up to the moment where the bisexual realizes that they're trapped in a situation that cannot allow them to express themselves and fully sexually, like being able to suck cock or get bent over to take a nice hard one in the back door.

Uh-oh - now what?

 

KDaddy23: Hell-if it FEELS good (and you are doing it with another consenting adult) throw these #%&)()%@! "taboos"out the window and just go GUNG-HO and ENJOY the guy-on-guy bonding to the fullest!! It's YOUR life-after all-do NOT allow ANYONE dictate to you what is "right" and what is "wrong"-------if it's "right" for you------heck---that's ALL there is to it!

 

Which is all well and good until your spouse finds out and, historically, that moment never goes well. It's also when some guys find themselves begging for forgiveness which may or may not really happen and depending on her own beliefs about such things as well as what being married means to her.

 

Well said; the key issue here is how TOLERANT the wife is to the thought of her husband "playing around" with other guys------indeed-it can go either way-and-if if the wife reacts in a way that is going to wreak woe and grief-well------here again-----WHAT does the bi husband do? Regardless of WHAT decision he decides upon-chances are it's not going to be what he had hoped for------a LOT at stake here------------

 

Personally-I do not think that "labeling" is required for denoting a guy's sexual tastes------again-----SEX is SEX-----period! Journey beyond the restrictions of "do nots" and just feel FREE to EXPLORE-without any feelings of guilt-----after all-------it is YOUR life---do what turns YOU on and the hell with the bigots and naysayers------