Your parents.....

FINALLY, a well-adjusted teen. someone's gotta be doing something right.

 

I learned from my parents (and people in general for that matter). I've learned to mimic the things that I like and agree with about them, and try not to do the things that I don't like about them.

 

my parents deserved an A+. they raised me and my two sisters the best they could, they always gave us everything they couldn't get when they were kids.. they're understanding and supportive..

they've been through a lot of shit with all of us, and with me just recently, but they understood and are contantly giving me support... and i know it's hard for them... because they aren't perfect health-wise.. they're stressed, anxious, nervous, and going through enough shit of their own already, so... A+

I've definitely inherited of my parent's stress and anxiety, and my mom's negativity, at times. But her positivity as well. I have been affected by my parent's constant need for change.. I'm the same now.. the need for traveling..

They made me a compassionate person who doesn't always show it (like dad) and I have a very dark humor (like mom)..

And other things.. many other things. I think that, whether we want it or not, our parents always influence us, whether by their genes flowing inside us or by learning their behaviors! It makes sense...

 

a samrt person learns from their mistakes. a wise person learns from the mistakes of others.

 

I don't think I agree with that.

 

that's because you're just smart.

 

And your 1/4 wise 3/4 wise ass.

But I bet that was observed more than anything.

 

Both of them get a D.
I am thankful to them for putting a roof over my head and feeding me. They did the best they could in those areas.
I do not appreciate my physical and emotional needs being neglected, ignored, and shat on.
Or the brainwashing and lies they tried to shove down our throats.
The physical and emotional abuse.

I'm glad for the relationship we have now. I'm glad I'm done resenting them for the past and appreciating the now and the future with them. I'm so grateful they're still allowing me to live with them.
I feel that the things I went through growing up have made me stronger today. So I'm grateful for that. My parents were a shining example of how NOT to treat your kids.
Because of that I know I will never have children or animals until I am both financially and emotionally secure.

I guess how I feel about them is a mixed bag. I still can't relate to them on a parent/child level. Because of the differences in our beliefs it's impossible for me to share anything personal with them without them having a bias against it. But I can't help but love them and hope for the best in their lives as they grow older.

 

likely. it's probably why my brothers beat me up so much. LEARN FROM MY MISTAKES!!!

 

I prefer wise asses.

Shows character.

 

this argument is over nothing really....

lode, why dont you agree that a smart person learns from their mistakes and a wise person learns from the mistakes of others?
what do you think instead?

 

It's too facile.

Everyone has the ability to learn from other peoples experiences and there own. And often they are able to observe them. My neighbor does meth. My neighbor's a crazy prostitute. I shouldn't do meth.

That doesn't make me any wiser. That's just being somewhat bright enough to see pasterns. Wisdom comes from time and experience which you can't really gain by a shallow observation.

 

i have to agree with ya on this one...

 

well, not everyone is capable of wise decisions. they think "well, it's not gonna happen to me" and go about their stupid way to become an example for wise people.

 

dad F, mom c-

dad is retarded, views me as a possession that exists to increase glory unto him, and not a person to actually give a shit about, his hypocrisy, fear, paranoia, self absorption, and general insanity made my childhood hell

mom did the best she could without divorcing dad and telling him he could be a hobo for all she cared. so, yeah, c-

 

true dat. i'll give my mom an A for effort and a B- in execution. my dad gets a D- in both, although he is the only person i've ever met whose brain seems to function similarly to how mine does, so i tend to be more understanding and forgiving of a lot of his mistakes for that reason. overall together, i give them a C, because i did grow up into a damn fine human being, but a good chunk of that was just genetics, not to mention the fact that they also kind of made me insane

 

I'm learning to re-connect with my dad in ways that I never thought were possible. He's mellowed out, and was always a real hardass when I was growing up. There is always going to be something that I feel as though I'm not getting from him however our relationship has brighter days ahead and I am always looking for my parents' approval and love in most ways. I can see us getting closer.

If I could grade my dad, I'd give him a solid B-. Which may be a little generous on the whole, but he's hardworking, thrifty, intelligent, brave, efficient, faithful and willful.

I'd give my mother an A++.

She can't turn off her teacher radar. She listens calmly to what people are doing, how a kid will say things, she pays attention to what other people are doing around her, because she's been trained to anticipate social problems and handle the outbursts. -- from the other side of the classroom -- you mutter to your friend, "Man, she's in a bad mood today." And then she'll pop, "Yeah, it has been a really bad day! Do your best not to add to it!" It amazes me how much she hears, how she knows stuff without ever knowing the full story too.

I used to go to my mom, expecting her to just listen to my problems, maybe even come down on me for being foolish but I always walk away with some of the most unexpected and best advice. I can talk about my sex life with her. She's a very good mom. The best I've ever known. She's very strong, independent, optimistic, and somehow does it all -- I come from long lines of matriarchal families with brains and common sense.

I'm a fairly unique fit to our family. I think I gave my parents the most amount of grief, overall of my two siblings. Never for attention though. They are both very independent people, and I was born with a lot of it in me. I'm the most stubborn, argumentative, crafty and spontaneous but they let me take my hits and picked my battles (which were many). I learned a lot about ownership and taking responsibility for the things that happen around me from my parents. I've always upheld the impression that they don't really have to worry about me much, that I'm capable and determined -- and I think that is something that I'd like to think I was just born with.

I've seen them shape other peoples' lives, better peoples' lives, and what it means to be live a good life because of my parents.

I love them both very much.

 

A+
i love my mom and dad...my mother and father went from homeless to what they have now...my father did all he could to keep a roof over our head when my brother, sister and i were young...my dad has done every job we all have done...faltered sometimes and came out ahead...hes a teacher now...took him until his early forties to figure out what he wanted to do with his life...my mother is a housewife still but after 30 years has finally started realizing her dreams...shes a post partum dula on her way to becomming a midwife...

they're fucking awesome and i love them very much...

here is my dad...the kindly santa claus

im so proud of him...

 

Awww, I want a dad like that.

 

Mom - B
+ Great friend
+ Gives me marijuana
+ Always super nice
+ Buys me stuff all the time
- Not much of a parent
- Too caught up in her earlier days when she partied

Dad - C
+ Smokes with me
+ Talks much about his experience with psychedelics to help me
+ Buys me stuff and lets me work for him
- Very overprotective
- Alcoholic (On and off)
- Very emotional, possibly bi-polar

Both parents get marked down for being in jail for the first 3-4 years of my life while I was living with my grandparents. At least they taught me that crack and meth are bad.