Your parents.....

Discussion in 'Random Thoughts' started by Makaveli_Reborn, Aug 19, 2008.

  1. Aristartle

    Aristartle Snow Falling on Cedars Lifetime Supporter

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    Do I know you, Meterix?
     
  2. Meretrix

    Meretrix Member

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    I don't think so. As you live in Ontario and I live in California. But if you would like to be friends I always like meeting new people :D haha
     
  3. Jaitaiyai

    Jaitaiyai Cianpo di tutti capi

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    I'd say A, they rock but I've had a very sheltered life so far. Plus it's not over yet. :)

    They made me who i am, its just the little things, like littering, i would never ever litter when i know others would. Stuff like the fact they dont drink, they dont smoke. It just makes me respect them more..
     
  4. Autentique

    Autentique wonderfabulastic

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    I love my mom, but I cant grade her. In certain things she's the best, in others she could be a lot better. Just like all of us.

    The most important thing is that she ALWAYS showed me love in so many different ways. Being affectionate, the way she woke me up when she had to, taking care of me when I wasnt feeling good, being silly when I was in a bad mood, or making me something special, always knew what to get me, never forgot to remind me of the good (and the bad) things that she saw in me and now I no longer think that saying bad things is bad, she was right. It has given me a lot to work on.
    She's just a very caring and loving person. It's crazy how much I am like her. I was just thinking that when I was going to bed last night. So much of what I say, do. It's things she would do, say to me and I dont even realize it when I do.
    I didnt live with my dad and he wasnt really a father figure with me growing up, but besides his crazy mood swings. I think that the difficulty I have communicating with my dad, has carried through every relationship I've ever had.
     
  5. Oz!

    Oz! Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

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    A+

    my folks raised me 'till i was old enough to make my own decisions.... and respected the decisions i made, even when they were shite.

    they are good people... quite like that we've made the transition from parent/child to being good friends now that we are all old and wrinkly :cheers2:
     
  6. AquaLight

    AquaLight Senior Member

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    I only have 1 parent, and if I learned anything..it is to be the exact opposite of her.
    But I'd give her an A.
     
  7. Wild Mountain Dave

    Wild Mountain Dave Rainbow

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    Wow I have learned more about people here in this thread than 4 months of the other stuff.
    I put a lot of stock in honoring my mother and father. I find that it's critical. I have become so much richer as a person for it and my children are the ultimate beneficiary of it.
    Dont get me wrong, I know there are those with haneous folks who can be honored for nothing but bringing you into the world and giving you life. Either way we learn someting and have something to hand down to our kiddos.
     
  8. Tr0gdor_the_Burninator

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    Both E
    My mom is a hippacrit and a bad parent and she brought my brothers and sisters the bane of my existence into this world.
    I've seen my dad like 4 times and he's a nice guy but he never talks to me and he's had nothing to do with my life.
    But ive learned exactly what to not to do from them.
     
  9. Traceroni.

    Traceroni. Senior Member

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    My mom has a huge heart and can't really hold a grudge, but can set things straight, usually without an argument. -Easy going, smart and caring

    My dad is different, way more strict and not afraid to punish you for doing stupid shit, but can be very reasonable. - wise, tough and roudy

    I learned responsibility, hard work and how to take care of myself early on, from my dad and my mum kind of taught me to have a softer, expressive side and they both taught me a lot of life lessons most people aren't fortunate enough to get.

    Bottom line, I'm much like both of them but not as affectionate as my mother, nor as strict as my father but I'm "smart", easy going and intense and rowdy and understanding... pretty much all at the same time.

    I guess I'd give them both an A, because I'm happy and they didn't exactly get it easy.
     
  10. Aristartle

    Aristartle Snow Falling on Cedars Lifetime Supporter

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    This is going to sound crazy, but I was there when you got your nipples pierced in another life.
     
  11. Wild Mountain Dave

    Wild Mountain Dave Rainbow

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  12. Aristartle

    Aristartle Snow Falling on Cedars Lifetime Supporter

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    In another life, I was right there man. No explanation required. :D
     
  13. scratcho

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    My mom ran off to Mexico when I was 3 and lived in a car with a Mexican guitar player and tried to put me in an orphanage.My so-called dad was a big-shot dickhead banker without the balls to be a single parent,so my gramma got me when she was in her late 50's.Bless her for stepping up and the main lesson she taught me was from her bible studies---do unto others as you would have them do unto you.I figured that's all I ever needed to get by in life and I still figure that way.It's a good thing there were no drugs available when I was young because I have always thought that "if some's good ,more's better".Woulda' OD'ed for sure.Alchohol was the worst thing for me,because when I drank,all the emotional bullshit came out with a vengence on anything and anybody that was around.Flopped around 'till I was 28,took acid and BANG---the healing began!My true personality is a loving ,gentle person and it finally came through,no thanks to those dead bodies that were supposed to be parents.I have worked to show my kids that they are loved ,wanted and they in return do likewise,thereby stopping the cycle.Had I been smarter,I might have gotten myself together sooner---but I never claimed to be a genius.When people complain about parents to me,I take a hard-ass position that if someone treats you wrong,parents or otherwise--cut 'em loose.I actually am a happy person now and have been for a long time.Life is good.[​IMG]Oh yeah--F's.
     
  14. Piaf

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    I would give my mom a B...She's great and I know she sacrificed a lot for me and my sister and she made sure we never lack anything, and God knows that wasnt always easy. Especially when we first moved here and had NOTHING. She'd get an A if she wasnt so controlling...

    I'd give my dad a C. Probably cause I grew up seeing him every 2 weeks. He's trying but he has missed out on a lot of things. Its kinda sad - we dont have much to talk about. With him its always that awkward silence. We both know that but hey...Sometimes he's trying really hard to be a parent , which is both funny and annoying...I'm always like - Dad, I'm 19, its a bit too late for all that. He's also very demanding. Expects good grades and behaviour and things like that...
     
  15. Wild Mountain Dave

    Wild Mountain Dave Rainbow

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    why is dad not around all the time? to keep you in food and clothes with a roof over your head or other reasons?
     
  16. Piaf

    Piaf Senior Member

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    If he wanted to make more money, he would have stayed here. He had a great job as a journalist here. But he decided to go back to Bosnia when the war ended. My mom didnt think so , she thought it was pretty dumb to return immediately cause it was a country with an insecure future and all that. So she decided to stay and keep me and my sis...The schools are better here and there are much more possibilities. And..Thats pretty much it.
     
  17. Wild Mountain Dave

    Wild Mountain Dave Rainbow

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    chasin a dream bigger than fam?
    yeah, thats pretty rough. I travel a good deal with my job but it keeps KC home raisng my children. Otherwise I'd have to have her work and we'd hire somone to raise em.
     
  18. Piaf

    Piaf Senior Member

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    Yeah, my dad is rather selfish and immature :rolleyes: I still love him though...I do feel a bit guilty. Maybe he didnt really want kids and now he's stuck with us...Ah well...


    Whats your job if I may ask ?

    PS. I wonder how would your kids rate you and KC :D If they were older, of course...
     
  19. Wild Mountain Dave

    Wild Mountain Dave Rainbow

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    who knows how'd they rate us but I am big on family and honoring my parents. i would like to think that trickles down.
    I am a project manager for a medium size engineering firm. I work with GIS which is basically building maps and virtual models of pipelines and utility lines.
     
  20. i_was_in_shroom_land

    i_was_in_shroom_land Shroomier than you!

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    i'll have to grade my mom and dad differently..

    from childhood to now.
    my mom went from an A- to a C-
    my dad went from a D to a C-

    i have my reasons.. lol
     
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