You're SEXY but... No thanks. Da fuck?

If this co-worker character is a little like me, like I suspect he is, passive-aggressive 'ignoring' is the last thing you wanna do if you want to fuck him.

Although, he is not like me. There`s a substantial difference: I probably would have fucked you already. :biggrin:

I think it`s time to start looking out for plan B.

 

Hmm, whats plan B? Get naked??

 

you'r probably just ugly and he's being nice

 

i'm pretty sure it was find an interested guy.

 

Hmm. Ok.That MUST be why he told me he fancied me. Why would he say so if he thought I was ugly? I didn't ASK him if he liked me, he told me, cos I said 'Why don't you talk to me?' and he said 'cos I thought it would be awkward cos we almost hooked up.' and he went on to say I was 'insanely hot' with a great arse and smile. I did not give him a reason to get into this. He could have said anything but that.
Being nice is saying, 'I don't think we really have anything to talk about, but i'll try to make conversation with you.' as opposed to, 'You're hot and I'd bang, but you're too young.'

On your bike, unless you wanna give me some real advice.

 

I struggle to find someone I'm truly into. And I don't like giving up easily once my eye is on the prize. I just don't get why he'd say all this then leave it hanging in the air. He's so unlike anyone I've ever met, he's so hard to understand. :/

I also text him last week asking if I was making him feel uncomfortable, but he said I wasn't, he just didn't like flirting over internal emails in case the boss sees. But he doesn't flirt otherwise and I don't see him outside of work to even try to make a move.

 

why don't you set up something outside of work then?

 

I meant an interested gal.

 

And you expect him to believe this is about sex??

 

Maybe I should try and explain this guy to you a little more.
He's quite reserved. Very quiet. When we're out he's a talker, but I dunno, he doesn't quite command the room- Like I do. I always direct questions at him, pay him attention.
We're quite opposite to be fair. I don't think he likes attention. I think I've phased him slightly. When we talk though, he's all smiles and laughs, which I love. But unless I talk to him, we don't talk. If he was interested, I'm sure he'd make an effort. I'm more forward than he is, so perhaps he feels like we can't match up? If that makes sense...
He has weird habits and tendencies also. So there may be some other underlying reason why he's being like this. Either way, I've left him to his business. If he wants the pussoir plate, he can have. He's still lovely. I'm not mad, just disappointed and a wee bit confused.

 

How well can this person read non-verbal communication, like tone of voice or body language?

It's possible he has a high functioning form of Aspergers. What are his other weird habits and tendencies? He's not violent or emotionally abusive is he?

 

Hmmm, I don't think he has Aspergers. Baring in mind I've only worked here for 5 months, and seen him outside of work a handful of times I can only go by what I see. He usually talks to other people at work ok, it's just me. When I'm around he won't really say much. I told him to start making an effort and he has, but it's kind of fallen flat again. We emailed for a bit, but it was always me initiating it, so I've stopped now.

Every morning he goes through this particular door to use the bathroom, then he walks out through another door when he could just use the same one he came through. He walks outside and around the building to come in through the main door when he could have just stayed inside. I didn't realize this myself, my friend did who sees him do it on the CCTV every day. I don't know if this is normal. So I think maybe he's got a bit of OCD. I don't mind this at all btw. I'm just saying, perhaps this comes into it?

As for violence. He does martial arts. I've wrestled him before and he was actually being quite rough with me I remember, but we were drunk so I was just laughing. So I have no idea? I don't think he's partial to attacking people as far as I know.

 

Just a note, you can have Asperger's and have OCD as well. They aren't mutually exclusive, the opposite actually, it's common to have both.

If he does have Asperger's this would explain why he has trouble starting communication with you, he may not know how. Even if he talks to other people, he could be flustered when wanting to talk to you specifically because of the rush of emotions you get from a crush, and he can't handle it so he never approaches you.

It sounds juvenile, but maybe this is the first time someone's shown interest in him especially given his weird behavior sometimes.

 

I've considered this as well. Perhaps he's not used to female attention... Awww.
He spoke to me today though. And he looks at me. Oh, I dunno. I might try a gypsy technique and grab him.

Thanks for the input!!